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Don't you just hate it when...

Journal Entry: Sun Jan 20, 2013, 3:03 AM
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... you have all the talents, but others just treat you like trash?

This is me in my mind:
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and this is how my family looks at me:
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I don't know, maybe I sit in front of the computer most of the time and that leads them to think this way? Or, maybe I'm in a Chinese family and stereotypically, they expect a lot more? They just... don't seem to want to dig deeper into a person, and see what is so beautiful in them.

I feel really isolated. I did all this work and it never gets appreciated, but when someone else did the same thing with a lackluster quality, he/she gets the praise? And, when they get into trouble, I take all the blames? How unfair is that?

I hated them before. Yes, I did. However, I find this only upsets myself and they won't change for you in any bit. Hence, nowadays, I will only ignore them and pity how much awesome stuff they have missed from me.

Let's take an example, even if you were a very skillful singer, without a proper audience that KNOWS how to appreciate you, your performance will never be a successful one. With this mindset, I could get around it and show my talents to more people who ACTUALLY appreciate me as a person. My bf :iconslydragoon16: being one, and I'm super thankful to have met him~

Have you ever have this kind of experiences before? If so, how do you deal with them?

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BTW, I'm running out of deivants to feature, so I will not be doing art features so frequently until I collect enough artists~

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Zocario Featured By Owner Mar 19, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I know exactly how you fell... Look' like your best is nothing for others.... Like even you beeing in a room with 1.000 people, you're always... alone.... I REALLY know how is be... How not to count on most of my family. I have a huge family, but lives alone with my father, and even he is skeptical with my ideas and plans ... sometimes it seems like I'm treated like a child ... That hurts real. So.. what I do? nothing... just wait untill FINALLY have achieved what I want and be able to stand on your own, and hope to find someone who likes me for who I am and what I like ( sorry for the bad english XS )
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AzureEmpyrean Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2013
I find solace in my faith.

I know it works, because my view has changed the way I think and feel for the better. I'm no longer depressed, I no longer need to worry about the opinions of others, I have a purpose and a reason, and all my talents are celebrated. I know that, when the world tells me that I have nothing to contribute to society, that they're wrong: I can touch each person at a time if I must, but I am invaluable.

And you are, too.

Yes, it hurts for a time, but through the knowledge that your gifts are indispensable (and even planned in advance!) it takes the sting right out. You may not know why your life is going this way, or why your family is being so harsh right now, but in time it will become clear.

Meanwhile, know that you are loved. I'll be cheering for you!
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Cheesebagz Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
may i suggest an artist for you to feature?
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Haychel Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Sure, go right ahead~
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Cheesebagz Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
his name is Gambear1er [link] and is style is pretty darn cool.
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SapphireMiuJewel Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Oh yes~ It felt it alot of times...
Sometimes from my Family...but Mostly...My Darn Relatives and Classmates from School!

They look down upon you...Make you feel inferior...
I felt That alot too...

..but You gotta ignore them sometimes...Let them miss all the wonderful things YOU can do!
Since they never appreciates it...

I deal with this everyday of my Life...but I get through it by the Comfort of My Wonderful Friends here on dA and the words I always whisper to myself, "It's Alright...It's Alright...Every things gonna be alright in the End..."

So, don't let others Stop you from doing the Things that people here in dA appreciates you for! Keep up the Amazing Work!~ :meow:
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puffle28 Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Student General Artist
oh yeah.....
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Angelized Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2013  Student General Artist
That's pretty much how my family is.

I stopped caring. Easier said than done of course.
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diamagon Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2013
I do have a similar experience. Im the second son of a family with now 6 boys. The last 2 don't share the same mother to the first 4, if you know what I mean. Thing is, I am the black sheep of the family. Mainly because I'm antisocial, as in I don't have many (or barely any) friends. I always played videogames, I don't get high grades, I don't play instruments, I didn't choose a true university degree to get (am in game design, which seems so simple compared to the books I found about engineering my dad had). The only thing I seem to have done well is to be the first of my brothers to get a job... as a game tester...

Most of my victories don't seem like they are mine, they seem to be just me being lucky, as in not winning due to self merit, but rather because I was lucky. I found out that I was concieved due to a mistake, on top of that, I was born with my right eye not being able to move to the right. I can't look sideways, I have to turn my head to do so. So physically unfit too. Not a gymnastics guy, nor do I get lots of chicks too, just an antisocial gamertard.

How do I deal with this? I don't quite understand that question. This is just a very simple description of what is depicted by other people as something "bad". If it is suposedly a description of my life, what I am, and such things, then I'm fking fine with that. We are unable to fully understand each other because we are not the other person. Noone will fully understand you simply because they are not you, they have not experienced being you, nor has anyone experienced being me. I guess I need to get to the point...

This is all from my own personal experience, so don't take it as true for you. I cannot garantee that it applies to you too, but I get that you wanted to read something like this. I am afterall, only a paranoid dumbass, and its not this kind of people that you want to listen to. the point is, the only person that can accept you wholly for what you are and who you are is... you. Nothing more is needed.
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IlyaRacer Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2013  Student Artist
I do quite hate this so much. I have no idea whether this is the same or not, but I always loved cars when I was a kid. But until now, I haven't had someone in reality to be able to share my passion with. So I see many of my friends talking about geek stuff, but I haven't been able to talk about what I love. Making me seem like a complete loner at times. Does this kinda relate? Even if its a bit different?

But, I'm sorry that your family doesn't see the best in you, I just hope the best goes well in your endeavors.
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